musings on love: part 1
From the time my first client said “I love you and it’s so easy”, I knew that helping others access Love was my calling as a provider. In that moment of real connection — hearts open, bodies alive — we experienced Love. It was beautiful.
He cried as I held him on top of me, chest to chest. I felt Love radiate out from my chest into him. This beautiful, powerful, brave man opening vulnerably for the first time in a long time. We ended with cuddles, laughter, chocolate — It was all so easy. The ease was such a key switch for him and one that he’d been searching for for a long time, but couldn’t find. I watched his life grow and change from that moment forward.
While we can experience Love in so many ways, the connection of Love and intimacy is one of the most profound that I’ve experienced (in my humble, bisexual, polyamorous opinion). The felt experience of the body and heart coming together with another is unparalleled.
I don’t believe sex and Love must exist together. I’ve had both separately many times, and have done my own work to separate the two; And, they are oh so tasty when they get to intermingle!
The energy created by two people making love is so powerful. I’ve watched people change their whole lives from it — getting divorced, meeting the love of their life, starting a new career, moving, traveling, creating a family, etc. I’ve been inspired countless times through Love. That’s how this business was created!
This all begs the question: What is Love?
While I believe Love is one of those things that each of us experience differently, there are some key components I see with Love for many people:
A felt sense of unity
Calm and relaxed in the body
A feeling of not needing to “do” anything
Appreciation of what is
Freedom (whatever that means to you)
Release: Crying, feeling heart open, laughter, exclamations (Wow! Oh my god! Rarrr!)
Notice how this doesn’t fit the stereotype of love that we’re taught in our western society?
While I love stories about princesses in castles and white knights, butterflies in my belly and seeing stars, they aren’t a great foundation for Love.
What Love is NOT:
Ownership of another
There is only one true love or "The One”
Being in love with a person means you can’t love another
Finding another to complete you. (Spoiler: You’re already a complete, whole human!)
Happily ever after/forever
While these ideas may feel romantic and desirable, most if not all of them are codependent: The idea that we need someone else to validate us and make us feel safe, secure and complete. While relationships can provide feelings of security, it’s a whole different experience when it’s based in freedom and choice rather than insecurity and neediness.
I recently had a longer dinner date. At one point after what felt like hours of me being pleasured, he stopped touching me and was looking into my eyes. “Oh, wow!” I asked what he was experiencing and he said, “Now I know what it’s like to be a conservationist. I’d love to take you home and make you mine because you’re so incredible! But THIS (gesturing to me and the room) is where you thrive.” I just nodded, knowingly. The caged bird doesn’t sing!
As Love and being a Lover has been my life’s work, I’ve experienced many transformations of what this means. Currently, I love serving as a conduit of Love. Not my love, per se, but greater Love, Divine Love, Cosmic Love. Do I fall in love with my clients? Yes, frequently. Am I going to rearrange my life to date everyone? No.
Be in the moment with me. Let me show you how.
